After this week’s BIP, I felt I just had to weigh in on what was going on. Relationships in the house are simultaneously forming & breaking up. As always, there is that one couple that is causing the most drama. While I originally had thought Amanda & Josh would be the origin of problems in the house, they have quietly slipped away into from the cameras and into their love nest filled with incessant tongue slurping. So who has been causing the problems you ask? Caila & Jared.
It’s funny that it’s these two since they are two people that have been portrayed as the most wholesome and nice characters on their respective seasons. But, throw Ashley I. into the mix (smart move ABC) and there is guaranteed to be trouble in paradise. See what I did there? Let’s be real here. The girl has tear ducts with an unlimited supply of water and a never ending flow at all times. The issue here is that Ashley is in love with Jared. The second issue here is that Jared doesn’t love her back.
Everyone is being pretty harsh on Ashley. Have you ever been the victim of unrequited love? If you have, you surely you know how much it sucks and how hard it is to let go. Sure, it’s annoying to hear her utter Jared’s name in every sentence; there’s no denying that. But, I honestly sympathize with her. We have ALL been that girl at some point in time. Every girl has had that guy that they liked way more than they liked her. Every girl has had that person that it takes forever to get over no matter how hard they try. Every girl has had that guy they liked that friend zoned them. Ashley I. is all of us and while she may be a tad more expressive with her emotions (I’m talking tears on tears) she is totally in a relatable situation.
While I feel for her and think most of us can identify with her, I do think that Ashley does need to wake up and smell the roses. A big, expensive, bouquet of them.She needs to learn to let go of something that was never really there in the first place. If you’ve been friends with a guy who has shown little to none romantic interest for over a year it’s never going to happen. Guys mostly think with their you-know-whats so if he really wanted to make it happen he would have by now. That should be a big hint to get over it. Instead, Ashley over analyzes little things to try to bring herself a glimmer of hope to convince herself that e she might still has a chance. While I admire her perseverance and dedication, it would be better used towards other aspects of her life and not for Jared. He has only made it clear countless times that she needs to move on.
If I ever ran into Jared on the street, I would have some choice words for him as well. Jared, you are not so innocent in this. In this instance of unrequited love, distance is key. Out of sight out of mind (mostly), right? Well, Mr. Nice Guy…by hanging out with Ashley all the time you are only feeding into her infatuation. They see each other frequently and they’ve even been on vacation with the infamous Janner. Newsflash Jared: If you want someone to get over you then don’t spend so much time with them! It’s really not possible to try to maintain that level of friendship when one is in love with the other. Not to mention, if Ashley’s claims are true these hang outs have led to some PG rated hook ups and that has only led her on further and allow her to believe she has a chance. So Jared, we see you are trying to convince Ashley to move on but maybe it would be easier if you would allow her to.
Caila on the other hand is pretty awful too. She not only blindsided Ashley by going after Jared after saying that she wouldn’t but she’s been so indecisive about him and their relationship that it’s enough to drive any viewer nuts. I get that she feels like she needs to walk on egg shells around Ashley. But at this point, if you’re going to go for it then go for it. You’ve already damaged your friendship to the point where it is irreparable so what is the difference at this point? Her indecisiveness over pretty much everything just goes to show she has a true lack of confidence in herself and her decision making skills. Her sub-par personality and annoying presence on the show only confirms that she would have been the worst choice for The Bachelorette gig.
What Ashley really needs is some hunky man to stroll into Paradise next week and sweep her off her feet…if she will let him! If I’m being totally honest here I think Ashley can do better than Jared anyway.