Rumor has it that Caila Quinn has been pegged as this season’s upcoming Bachelorette. Last week we saw Caila get her heart broken and it did not go over well. While she told Ben she loved him multiple times, he managed to avoid saying it back to her at all. That was the red flag right there. Meanwhile, he found a way to say it back to the other two contestants. You can’t help but feel bad for her. It was pretty clear that Ben slept with her on the Fantasy date and then chucked her and hung her out to dry afterwards. Maybe he’s not Mr. Innocent after all. If last night’s Women Tell All episode is any indication, she’s still absolutely devastated. Still, no matter how much I pity her it will never make me believe that she’s the right choice for The Bachelorette. It looks like ABC decided to give her a chance to run the show on her own terms and got her another chance at finding love on the small screen. When I heard this announcement (confirmed by Reality Steve aka it must be true), I could not help but feel one thing…disappointed.
Sure, Caila is a nice girl and all…but that’s all there is to here; a nice girl. In her weeks on The Bachelor, she never brought a lot to the table. She has little substance to her. If you’re going to watch someone weed through various men on national television, you want a strong personality; someone with some conviction. Conviction is something that Caila seriously lacks. To be honest, I don’t think she has it in her to be The Bachelorette.
Remember her baffling conversations with Ben? She could never truly express what she wanted to say. “Maybe my head is one place but my heart is in another.” “My biggest fear is that I won’t be able to love with you.” Even I can tell you that this statement is quite possibly the dumbest thing you could say on a reality dating show.”But, I feel like I’m falling for you.” Huh? You just said you might not be able to love him at all. Those are just bits and pieces of one of Caila’s confusing conversations with Ben that left us saying “What?” There was a certain point where if I was Ben I would have kicked her to the curb. But for some reason he couldn’t let go. Maybe he knew she was a safe bet? Not being able to articulate your feelings is a common problem but to really have no idea what you want is another thing completely. If you can’t express feelings to one man how will you express them to 25? You need to know what you’re looking for and what you want. Caila was not sure about either of those facts. Whether she thought she was ready or not, it was pretty clear that she was not 100% ready for engagement or to be completely committed in her relationship no matter how much she thought she “loved” Ben. Will she really be ready for it so soon after the fact?
Confusing brain fart moments are just one of the things that irk me about Caila. Her lack of personality is what really gets me though. She’s straight up boring! Who wants to watch someone boring for seven weeks? All this chick knows how to do is giggle. She’s a 15 year old trapped in a 23 year old’s body. Reality check: not everything is funny. Find something to say. Make the conversation important and stop laughing so damn much! She’s someone who should be a supporting role, not a main character.
Caila’s age hinders me from believing she’s truly ready to be on The Bachelorette. Ben could not have been more confused by her. Her lack of committal feelings for most of the season only shone more of a light on her immaturity. At 23, you still have so much time to experience life. 23 is a young age to be hunting for a husband especially after she had just recently ended a relationship before being on the show. I still think she dumped her boyfriend to be on the show but that’s another thing entirely… She’s now entering the world of serial dating. She’s a person that doesn’t know how to be alone. You need to be able to be independent before being able to set the grounds for a relationship. You need to know what it feels like to be on your own. Otherwise, you will forever be dependent on someone else because you don’t know any other way. Being completely dependent on your significant other usually just causes harm to a relationship.
Coming out of last season where we had Kaitlyn’s strong personality as the foundation of the show, you know it’s a let down to see Caila’s name picked in the press. Kaitlyn knew what she wanted. She changed the rules of the game and showed everyone that women can run the show too. Whether you agreed with her decisions or not, there was never a dull moment on her season. For me, Kaitlyn was a bad ass. She had balls and made me want to be her friend. Interesting people are what the viewers want to watch.
ABC should have waited for the final episode to tap either Lauren or JoJo (probably would be JoJo) for the next season of The Bachelorette. They are fan favorites with shining personalities. JoJo would make a great Bachelorette. She’s incredibly personable and watching her find love would be a treat. Even Amanda would have been a solid choice too. Who wouldn’t want to watching a hurting single mother find a dad for her two adorable little girls? Come on programming. That’s a guaranteed story to make the viewers’ hearts melt. Overall, there were a ton of girls this season with great personalities that should have had the opportunity to be picked. Jennifer would have been great but unfortunately she was eliminated too early in the game to even be considered. The third runner up should not be an automatic pick.
Traditionally, ratings are always higher for The Bachelor than The Bachelorette. This year I suspect the gap will widen even further since my Twitter feed is proof that many viewers feel that ABC is making the wrong choice. Ultimately the producers will really need to amp up the antics to make her season more exciting and fill the gaps that her personality cannot fill.